New year is always a great time to take stock, reflect and make positive changes in your lifestyle. This year has been different though, and it may require a new approach to new year’s resolutions that is kinder and more psychologically healthy.
It’s time to quit quitting
We all know that new year’s resolutions aren’t easy to keep. In fact, recent research by Strava found that by 19th January 2020 (known as Quitter’s day) over 5,580,587 people in the UK had abandoned their new year’s resolution already. So how can we make changes that actually work? Are we setting ourselves up to fail? Here are some psychological tips to help you make positive changes and keep to them.
Recognise what you’ve achieved
2020 was a tough year for everyone and many of us were pleased to leave it behind. And though our new year celebrations were a lot smaller than in previous years, it’s still really important to recognise just how much you have been through and how well you have coped. Look for ways in which you have shown resilience, self-care and adaptability and how you can carry those victories forward.
Think about what is good for you
Before we tackle changing negative behaviours, let’s look at some positive changes we can make. Think about an attribute that you like about yourself, maybe you’re really sympathetic, maybe you’re charismatic or well-motivated. Think of ways you can continue to develop these positive attributes and use them as a source of self-confidence. Try and do more of what you love, and incorporate this idea into your new year’s resolution. Build up the skills you have and expand these rather than trying to take up something completely unfamiliar and difficult which can leave you feeling overwhelmed.
Say goodbye gently
When it comes to changing negative behaviours and stopping bad habits, it is important to practise self-care and use a positive mindset. Think about how your life will improve once you stop those negative behaviours and what you need to do to get there.
Ask for help
Don’t beat yourself up if you slip up, real positive behavioural changes take time and effort, but you can do it! It may also be a great time to seek professional help with lifestyle changes, and an expert health psychologist can give you the tools you need to really make 2021 a much better year.
